The weight of our work needs to lighten - often so hard and rigid. The hardness and rigidity provide heavy material for structure.
Existence is not merely hard and rigid. Existence is incredibly fluid and dynamic.
How then can we create the structures necessary for survival without getting locked into hardness and rigidity?
Be and breathe love.
Do you know how loved you are?
Do you know how much love you already hold within your heart?
Can you feel the love shown by the love around you?
Can you feel the love within you softening and making gentle the beat of your heart?
You are so Loved!
You are a being of love!!
Light and friendly, gentle and kind, peaceful and patient, generous and faithful.
I need love.
The love that warms me to sleep.
The love that encourages me to get up and go serve.
The love that makes me feel safe to be myself.
The reality within manifests through to the reality without.
A practice of invision is the experience of sight within.
What is seen within?
What is seen without?
Are you paying attention?
Are you responsive to what is seen without from what was seen within?
This back and forth between realities - living the dream.
The significance of the paper clip, in the image below, is a narrow example of the rich universal entanglement of realities. After washing, drying, folding, putting away, then donning my singular winter jacket I noticed the pull tab missing from the slider of the chain. Allowing for the discovery to process within me, We experienced a vision of some sturdy paper clip passed through the hole in the slider for the pull tab. On the day after the experienced vision, while walking past the local high school, on the concrete sidewalk - a sturdy paper clip lay before my feet.
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Verifiably better than Starbucks!
You are welcome to kick it up a notch by doubling the espresso or utilizing a hot chocolate to your liking!!
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No other man can be Hurricane Joe.
He does this work with a heart-center gentle as the eye of the whirling might.
No other man can stand in his way. Watch-out!
The point of losing is that the loser made an attempt. The loser had the privilege of competing. In losing, those who lost have more opportunities to learn than the winner.
Eventually, the winner will lose. How long can the winner maintain their championship? What defines winning? Progressive successes through achievement of agency in the environment.
The level is our connection for communication.
Loneliness comes from not connecting at the same level as the energies in our environment.
So, the opposite is true - feeling connected and part of a larger support network comes from adjusting to the level of the environment.
Of course, if the larger network or individual is negative, unhealthy and contractive then, use discretion in adjusting to that level.
How does one know how to discern what is positive, healthy, and expansive? - Check values.
Explore and challenge values, in doing so, we learn similarities and differences. From learning the similarities and differences we discern the level to approach to achieve a desired effect.
Sometimes we don’t know the effect. Focused on maintaining our own inner peace - the effect from being alive, thankful and forgiving has unceasingly provided a positive, healthy, expansive effect.
Sacrifice means to give up something of value in honor of some higher power. Traditionally - sacrifices are made willingly by those who chose to give up something of value to a perceived or actual being of influence greater than themselves. Also in traditional practice - sacrifices are made UNWILLINGLY by those influenced to do so under suppression of a being perceived or actually greater than themselves.
When something of value is given up a void is created. In that void new things of value emerge - the essence of sacrifice. Before something completely new enters, the old must be destroyed. What is given up and what emerges varies substantially - things of value can be quite diverse.
Values are the fundamental basis for how we interact in our environment. How those values serve us is reflected in our interactions and our community. Values define who we are as those values manifest in our actions.
When our values are challenged, our fundamental existence is put to the test as an individual and as a community. From the test, a variety of outcomes become present. The values may be reinforced, or more well defined, or the values may lose favor and not serve the individual or community
Values differ amongst individuals, and amongst individuals and the community, and amongst communities.
How, then, can we live with such diversity of values? What will you do to maintain who you are? Will you change jobs if you have a conflict of values? Will you maintain friendships with people of different values? Does it matter what their values are? - Who your friends are. Will you move to a community where your values are accepted or will you demand to be accepted in a community with values different than yours? Will you distance or leave your family if you are not accepted or do not accept them? Are there values you want to give up? Are there values you want to possess? Are there values you are unwilling to yield? Will you give up who you are to fit into a community?
Just as values define who we are, how we fit-in supports our existence in the higher community - no individual exists without some form of higher community, no matter how distant the individual appears. The same is true for community - no community exists without some other lesser, parallel, or higher community. How these individuals and communities interact is defined by their shared values and their mutual allowance of differing values.
What is this about shared values and mutual allowance? The essence of positive, healthy, expansive relationships acknowledges boundaries and expectations predicated on values.
The conversations we have with the world are the conversations we have with our self. If you want to improve your connections with others, the first step will be to improve the connection with yourself.
Whatever relationship you have within your own heart will shine to the world.
Be and breathe love.
Lady friends, like lady loves, are entirely open and honest with us. We are mutually supportive and respectful of boundaries and expectations. Instead of shutting down or going berserk, the ladies are encouraged to chill-out by going into the hot tub or sauna, to work-out or do yoga, to paint, write, dance or connect with bridges of loving support. Eventually, after resisting the positive, healthy, expansive suggestions for harboring peace within and around her, she says after practicing the suggestions, “Why did I resist for so long?”
We listen to our heart and let our heart guide our boundaries and expectations.
Lady loves exist in the world of romance. In romance we enter a deeply intertwined connection which requires the highest degree of care. The souls are breathing together in a way reserved for loving. The seriousness of this type of connection cannot be understated. Lives are created, hearts ripped apart, validation of who we are.
Lady loves make the world meaningful. Without lady loves no man will exist or feel the love needed to continue existing.
We need validation in some way.
Without validation we lose a sense of ourself, validation for how we look, for our worth and adequacy, for our ability and creativity, for our perception of experiences.
Your validation encourages the existence you validate. Whatever is validated is encouraged to continue.
Thus, we have the power to influence behaviour through validation or invalidation.
The author is thankful for all the validation from you and the universe in living, breathing and sharing his positive, healthy, expansive existence!
A bridge of loving support is a human being who exists in a supportive way for another. The way someone is supported is defined by their relationship with their support. If we choose to align ourselves, there is a full spectrum of support available for our existence. We are best served by being a node of support in a network of support. The network of support is the quality of spectrum serving the varied needs of the node.
The reciprocally supportive relationship, like any bridge, must be maintained in some way. Like bridges, our time supporting or being supported in a relationship is temporary. We build and maintain new bridges of loving support. When our time together comes to a natural end, we consider the bridge crossed. If our time together breaks down without repair, we consider the bridge burnt.
In the same way people may be in a positive, healthy, expansive relationship, they too can be in a negative, unhealthy, contractive relationship. Those negative relationships serve the opposite of support. Learning to discern positivity will be critical in manifesting positive, healthy, expansive relationships to support and be supported.
Give it a try. Try being supported - try it. Many, many, many, many, people believe they do not need support. Too bad for those people. Their belief invalidates the supports they do have.
A part of us doesn’t want to be vulnerable. Some parts believe the self will be hurt and die if we were to become vulnerable. Our soul wants us to be vulnerable. The soul is hurt and dying the less we are vulnerable. Courageously be your wise authentic silly and serious self, get up there, in there, or out there and just breathe, you got this, you got this with god, the universe, be blessed, you are loved.
The more we acknowledge the loving blessing god, the universe, and us have for the universe and us, the more we be and breathe the blessed love the universe compassionately desires.
As we be and breathe the blessed love the universe compassionately desires we are filled with a sense of peace and serenity, making progress and welcoming challenges with grace and ease.
Two years ago, a part of us really, really, really, really, really, really, really did not want to exist. Listening to this annihilating part of us, our heart seemed to skip some beats. We became frightened that we might actually be able to will our self out of existence.
A day or two later I, heart still beating, was at a celebration of life for my late friend and confidante. The celebration was guided well by spirit. The celebration invited attendees to share with the celebration some words. Near the end, after two great men, the first being a well renowned songwriter of love, the second the former mayor of our town, I heard in my imagination my late friend say, “Get up, it’s your turn.” I spoke from my heart the vulnerable experience I had the night or two prior and vulnerable experiences our late friend and I shared.
In being vulnerable that day, the universe guided to me a love that would rip open the bright and vibrant love the universe had in me all along. The love ripped away the shameful feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness from my perceived and practiced existence. The void of shame we filled with progress of a perceived and practiced existence in healthy, light and friendly - love.
The indications of rain this summer lost their merit. One day the leaves turned, the winds blew, the sky fell dark yet, the rain did not come. The next day the leaves turned, the wind blew, the sky fell dark and yet, the rain did not come. Again, the leaves turned, the winds blew, and the sky fell dark and again, the rain did not come.
All summer the indications of rain failed to bring what was once a likely promise - a constant tease, dry and raw.
We had the intuition that the nourishing wetness of rain would not come. A summer dryness from a lost love in winter.
Healthy routines once established provided nourishing support.
Unhealthy routines are detrimental.
What makes a routine healthy or unhealthy?
Are there magnitudes of healthy routine, where some less intense healthy routines can be more effective by establishing more effective healthy habits?
Sometimes simply starting a healthy routine magnifies the eventual effects.
Only sad negative reasons exist to not establish healthy routines throughout the day, year, and life. The sun will set and rise again; winter comes and goes; - we are all going to die.
A positive reason to establish healthy routines throughout our day, year, and life is that by doing so we can enjoy the sweetest fruits of experience and live a life full of meaning, purpose, and enjoyment.
A routine has purpose. The purpose gives meaning. The practice is enjoyed by the positive, healthy, expansive meaningful purpose.
You are a gift to the world. Your experience and expression gives us the opportunity to grow. We have the opportunity to learn from you. Your curiosity of all things intrigues us. No matter what mistake you make, those mistakes give us the opportunity to grow.
Fifty years?
When did he start being old?
Was it at birth?
Is his perceived age a result
of his perspective?
What then, of this man’s practice?
Will he build the courage
necessary to be vulnerable,
at his age, to share the sage
of his perspective?
How can he share his perspective?
The world of man now seems new,
though the thread of light everlasts.
But How Beautiful!?
Let me see more of you.
Not just your Glorious Form
but, of your Character!
Of your Joy and Peace,
your Patience and Kindness,
your Generosity and Faithfulness
your Temperance and Gentle Love.
Show me you.
If you are diminished in these, soo too
is your Beauty.
Show me you.
In your sweet expressions of
these Qualities of Character,
The Folds of Your Beauty are Boundless.
Some part of our existence for sure. Like what?
Like our soft heart - ripped and torn,
sharped and panged,
desperately needing loving support.
Then give it! - without expecting
it in return.
We tire of the people - not giving us
the love we need.
Then give it!
You are doing a great job now.
Giving yourself this time
for these words.
Stiefelled from how we are perceived.
The varied perception clouds clarity.
We achieved Leadership and Authority
simply by being old - the
people look to us for example.
The example I set may be too
different from their expectations
but, I am the Example.
I am the Authority.
We acknowledge yours.
And in this time for these words,
we feel the love given by the people,
and in this feeling of the love given,
the sharp strings stifling our heart
loosen, encouraging our positive,
healthy, expansive existence.
This author is most dude.
He is:
Grand Master Dude
Please feel free to address him as you wish. “Mr. Cool” as one gas attendant said. “Gym Jesus” as the highschool / college students say at the gym. “Mr. Natural” as told by a gentleman at a reunion party for most guests - except, of course for this author.
What is it like to feel emotions? Terrible and wonderful.
With deep emotions, objectivity in the world is clouded. All we can do is feel. We learn to trust our emotions. There is a reason we feel how we feel. With such deep emotions and strong intellect the insight we have for existence is rare, unique, and desirable.
How can we translate our experience for the rest of you? This blog is a great start. We are working towards a license to sell real estate. In the real estate coursework we learned the buying and selling of real estate is, no matter how calculated, an emotional choice. How we behave in the world is predicated on beliefs; and, beliefs are held, not only in thought, but also and maybe more strongly - in emotions.
What then for people who do not feel as deeply as we do? The world of humanity will be lost without reflective awareness of our emotions. We must come together in a balance of reason and emotion. We must validate each other in a positive, healthy, expansive way.
Being sad for being sad only makes the sadness worse. Being happy is something which requires effort. The emotions run too deep to simply be happy. Too much disappointment and thwarted expectations inhibit happiness.
Even more challenging is not emulating the emotions of those around us. Raising our awareness to a sense of experience where we can identify the emotions of others without emulating that emotion with ourself helps establish a stronger sense of self and objectivity. With deep emotion, no emotion is free from the depth. Even joy can be felt very deeply. In the depth of joy and love we relax deeper into enlightenment.
Park benches suck for bum naps. Picnic tables are much better. Park benches typically have some strange curvature along the seat. Picnic tables are generally flat. The back rest of the park bench limits the width allowed for broad shoulders and pointy elbows. Picnic tables are wide enough for the shoulders to rest and nap comfortably!
Do you cuddle like that?
Magically
Wearing a weighted vest may seem a bit strange. People ask why am I wearing it? What am I training for?
I need to support more than myself. The wearing of the vest is a way to bring to physical reality my spiritual and real life quest of supporting more than myself.
I utilize the fibonacci fitness and the trifecta to make the appropriate gains!
To be proud to be a freak is okay. To be considered equal to the truth is not okay.
Sorry a man was considered to have beaten a woman’s record. Please forgive the NCAA, UPENN, and everyone involved in their ignorance of the truth and influence in society to allow for unfair competition. We love to welcome all to swim. We are thankful to have created opportunities for women to compete amongst themselves.
Just give it time NCAA, maybe in time you can have athletic competitions solely amongst transfreaks.
Despite the language of transfreaks, we are sensitive - so chill. We are all some type of freak! We all got born
Emotional-mental health is critically important for the health and safety of society, the community, families, and the individual.
Most of the problems of our well-being emanate from the emotional-mental health of all members of society. All we can control is our-self. We have the blessed existence to influence the world by example.
A positive, healthy, expansive environment is more possible with positive, healthy, expansive perspective and perceptions within every individual. A positive, healthy, expansive perspective and perception is achievable through encouraging the practice of therapeutic treatment for emotional-mental health.
We expand the common term mental health to emotional-mental health. We are more than just our mind, we are also our heart and maybe even more so.
In our society we have made great strides in supporting ourself. We will continue to need to make progress. Some insurance companies do not value emotional-mental health, they would rather prescribe than treat.
So much of our well-being can be increased if we submit to the nature of our existence and practice love wisely.
Having negative thoughts?
Alter pessimistic attitudes!
The changing of your language is a practice. Be gentle and patient in the process.
The results will manifest, maybe sooner than anticipated and sometimes longer than desired.
The trick will be to catch yourself when you have negative, unhealthy, contractive thoughts. Then challenge or change those thoughts into something postive, healthy and expansive!
Luckily in capitalism if a need or demand exists, then there is opportunity for supply. Entrepreneurs devoted themselves to supplying the need of society to support its members.
Some individuals and families struggle helplessly to be positive, healthy, expansive members of a society to support themselves within the society.
No singular business entity is devoted to the entirety of support. Some businesses are intermediaries for specific support. Specific support includes but certainly not limited to job coaching; therapy for emotional-mental health; case management for food assistance, housing assistance, healthcare assistance.
One morning this guy was trapped in his own van by his own hand. Once freed this guy learned what led to being so confined. He will be mindful to not perform the same practice. Good that he learned. Indeed. the end.
ahhh hahah nooo still not done
Yes, well.
This guy is practicing remaining calm. He needs to do so if he wants to be competent as a lifeguard. Responding to emergencies with calm, coherent poise is essential to effective existence in emergency situations. He had the opportunity to practice remaining calm and coherent when the latch on his door failed to unlatch. The latch is the only one for the door. The door is the only way out, no other doors were accessible - trapped.
For how long?
How would he escape?
What if he had to use the bathroom?
He thought of none of those questions after becoming aware of being trapped. His first thought was to remain calm, if not he would exacerbate what little oxygen was left in the little cove of his. Remain calm, just chill, everything will be okay. Thinking quickly of the possible cause of the malfunction and a possible solution, he was thankful to have the awareness to contact a person with a spare key, thankful he had a phone, that was charged, that had service.
First text message,
I think I have an emergency on my hands.
Second,
I am not able to exit the cove
Third,
I am tempted to rip out the insulation on the door to attempt to get at the latching mechanism
Fourth,
I am not currently pressed to exit the cove
Once those messages were sent, that guy went back to the first thought, remain calm, just chill, everything will be okay. Soon, after repeating the thought a few more times his phone rang. The call was from the person with the spare key, “Hey dude, what’s going on?”
“Did you get my text?”
“All I read was ‘I think I have an emergency,’ and called you right away.”
This guy felt so incredibly loved and supported by the universe from the mutual response by the person with the spare key. After discussing the details of the plan to free that guy from the cove of his van, the two felt confident in a positive, healthy, expansive solution to free him. Once the plan was declared, the next duty for this guy was to return to chilling and wait for help to arrive. He relaxed onto his mattress - coming down from the anxiety of uncertainty. In his relaxed state he thought of what he would do if he were pressed to defecate. He had access to plastic grocery bags, toilet paper, soap and water. He smiled with quiet content for the blessing of not needing to utilize those resources at the moment and also, for having those resources.
Soon, help arrived and that guy was freed with the spare key from the outside by the ambitious bull of a person with the spare key.
Back in Wilma’s cove, I am a new man. Wilma is the name of my van.
Before leaving the van to live in an apartment, I was alive.
When people asked me how I was - I’d respond “I’m alive.”
“I’m alive,” resonated with almost everyone. How my response resonated varied depending on the individual receiving my response. Some people said, “Yeah, me too.” Others asked, “Is that all - just alive?”
“Just alive? To be alive is a miracle, is there more to being alive? Of course there is, but nothing would be possible without being alive first. Life is not a given or guarantee, life is existence.”
Upon moving into the apartment I miraculously became thankful. I was alive and thankful.
People asked me how I was - I’d respond, “I’m alive and thankful.”
“I’m alive and thankful,” resonated with almost everyone in a different way than, “I’m alive.” Some people said, “Yeah, I should remember to be more thankful.” Others asked, “For what?”
“For being alive and so much more.”
While living in the apartment a breakdown occurred in my personal life. My hurt was returned to me. I needed to heal. In the peace following the breakdown and working on healing, I became open to the practice of forgiveness. I committed myself to give without my hurt - forgive my hurt. I am alive, thankful and forgiving.
People ask me how I am - I respond, “I’m alive, thankful and forgiving.” I have not been able to measure much of a response yet from people. The statement for how I am is still rather new. So far, people seem taken back by the weight of my response for how I am. I say how I am in a soft and gentle way however, those three words have very strong meanings for people.
Now back in the van for reasons of a [ ] landlord. I will not let the actions of the landlord take away my thankfulness or forgiveness - even though his actions created the circumstance to choose Wilma’s cove again. I am alive, thankful and forgiving.
What gives matter itself?
What of light?
Must it be so radiant?
Must it be so narrow?
Let’s swim between light and matter.
Enough with the hurt already. Just stop it. But how can we just stop the hurt if the hurt is a habit? No good will come from the foot of a rabbit.
I already knew the hurt was there, why did I continue to hold onto and continue to practice the memory. I continued because I did; it was my habit. I did not stop when a deeply sincere loving support was removed because of my hurtfulness. I continued anyway, in a more refined manner, until my hurtfulness was given back to me from a different deeply sincere loving support.
Heartbroken again, but this time we have forgiveness. Forgiveness for our-self, for our values and experiences that led to hurtful behavior.
When I think of the word forgive, I think of the word forgo. To forgo something is to go without it. So to forgive something is to give without it. We give without our values that led to hurtful behavior. Give without the hurt.
Give with love; good, deeply sincere love; love that will not incidentally create hurt from a tainted, twisted or clouded interpretation of love.
Give without hurtful love. Forgive hurtful love.
We have faith that as we give without our negative, unhealthy, contractive values, we will give with more positive, healthy, expansive values!
Be at peace with the hurt. Be patient with the growth. Enjoy 4/20.
Buffet is the fastest food. Just go up and get it. It’s sitting right there. The only long part is waiting your turn, so be sure to time your approach!
There are a few types of buffet. Some buffet grows in the wild like a blueberry patch or a banana grove. Another buffet is planted and when ripe the buffet begins. Of course, there is the buffet to which we are accustomed, where cooks prepare tray after tray of delicious nurishment.
Unsleeve your heart. Show your emotions, in a healthy way. We are wanting of connection. We can respect emotional differences. To unsleeve our heart creates what may appear as vulnerability to ourself or from others.
The vulnerability is welcomed!
So many of us are closed to the light of practicing deep loving connection. We may simply not know how or be too afraid or hurt to practice loving connection. Though we might be closed, we want to be open.
When you choose to open your heart to people, you give courage and validation for others to do so, too. As we share, we may grow to fully appreciate differences and embrace our common thread of the human experience on Earth.
We love you. You are loved. Be gentle. Be kind. Be at peace.
What is it worth if our money loses value? What value did it have to begin with?
The value of money is based on belief.
God already provides all we need here on Earth and in the universe.
What good is money?
Money can simply be a token in an exchange conversation. Money can serve to act as control for those with it over those without it.
For some reason, when money leaves a society, social functioning breaks down. People cannot seem to get along without some exchange of money.
What of love?
Why can’t people exchange love for their necessities?
Love isn’t free.
The best qualities of love take time and effort to develop.
Qualities of self-control, gentleness, faithfulness, generosity, kindness, patience, peace and joy all require some development within every member of society.
If we worked on our love and could exchange love for our necessities, why would we need money?
Money seems to serve the opposite of those qualities of love.
Can humans exist with money and the qualities of love in a positive, healthy, expansive way?
Perhaps, yes. When those with money have the qualities of love they may use their influence to promote the qualities of love in their endeavors. For people with money lacking in the qualities of love, their endeavors will may hurt the environment around them and everyone in it, including themselves.
As humans, we are all on the spectrum between love and hurt. There are parts of us which love and parts of us which hurt. A growth mindset and a fixed mindset.
How can we encourage one another to live clearly, concisely, and coherently, openly and honestly in self-control, gentleness, faithfulness, generosity, kindness, patience, peace, joy and love?
If we could, maybe doing so will make our money have more value, or shatter the value of money completely.
